Frequently Asked Questions about Kissing I really like this guy and we have known each other for a while. We kissed once but only on a dare. I haven’t really kissed anyone before so I don’t really know what to do. He thinks I am very experienced, but I’m not at all and neither is he! So how do you know how and when to kiss someone? Answer: Kissing is one of the most romantic things you can do with a man. A kiss can communicate many different things - from a loving and gentle “you’re wonderful and I care about you” to a wildly passionate “I want you now!” The most important thing to remember is that everyone kisses differently, and different people will sometimes have different preferences as to kissing style. For starters, you can take a look at the article called Kissing Tips and Techniques for tips on what to do. It’s humorous, but the information is extremely valuable and a great starting point for those of you that are new to kissing, with tips on what to do and what not to do. As for when to kiss, being spontaneous is always good. Like when you see him, or when you feel really happy, wrap your arms around his neck and plant him a quick one on the lips. Nothing too deep, just a nice, somewhat firm lip to lip smack. Traditionally, goodnight kisses after a date with someone you really care about are a good choice. And that is where the French kiss might come in. French kissing (also called “soul kissing”) means kissing in a way that your tongue touches your partner’s tongue. First, you separate your lips a little bit more than you might for a normal lip kiss, making room for your partner’s tongue to enter your mouth. Place the tip of your tongue on the tip of your partner’s tongue. Gently play with their tongue by circling or stroking (gently!) with your own; or you can gently suck their tongue into your mouth. If the kiss should get more passionate, one or both of you will begin to kiss and use your tongue a little more forcefully. You can add use of lips to the Frnech kiss by running your tongue gently over your partner’s lips. General kissing instructions include: remember to breathe (through your nose) while involved in a lengthy kiss so you won’t pass out. Open your mouth just a little bit before any type of kiss. Don’t put on greasy lip gloss or strange lipstick if you think you’ll be kissing because it will gross the guy out, but do take a moment and lick your lips before kissing so they will be a little moist. Make sure you have fresh breath! And be sure to close your eyes unless you know for a FACT that he is one of the type that likes to kiss with the eyes open. Have fun experimenting as, like I said above, each person likes something a little different. Find what works the best for the two of you. Back to main page