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Here is an excerpt of an e-mail written
in reply to someone who had asked to explain how to kiss. I hope it
will help! «Ok, the first thing you should know is that kissing is EASY. People always make a big fuss about it, but almost everyone realize how simple it actually is once they've done their first kiss (regular or French). If you can get over your nervosity, you will already have 90% of the job done. Getting over your nervosity depends mostly on how you view your first kissing experience. If you keep worrying about blowing it and being rejected if you don't do right on your first attempt, you WILL be nervous. However, if you start actually looking forward to it and start getting excited about your first kiss, it will take away a lot of nervosity. Before you go to sleep, or when you have nothing else to do besides imagining things, try to imagine and visualize how your first kiss is going to happen. Think about the details, how you are going to act, etc. Also, sometimes imagine scenarios where you actually blow it - and laugh about it. It's possible that your first kiss will be ackward - mine was. If that happens, just laugh about it and tell the lady it was your first one. Believe me, she'll probably make sure you get plenty of practice afterwards - mine sure did! ;) Now, you wanted some tips about technique. However, you should know that there are probably as many different ways of kissing that there are people on this planet. So you should have plenty of latitude on the method you could pick. Still, I'm going to give you some general advice. Be relaxed and breathe softly yet deeply through your nose - you don't want to get choked to death during your first French kiss, do you? :P Also, a relaxed breathing will help keep down your nervosity. There are many places where you could put your hands. You can hold her chin, place both of your palms on her cheeks, put your arms around her waist or her neck. Be gentle - gentle kisses are easier than the deep, passionate ones you see in the movies, so you'll want to practice with the easier stuff first. Lean forward, and gently press your lips against hers - don't be tense or it will be uncomfortable for the two of you. You might want to keep your eyes open until you make contact, just to make sure you end up where you want... :P If it's just a little peck you want, that's all you have to do. However, if you want to make it last, you'll have to play with her a little: move your lips against hers by opening and closing your mouth slightly and slowly. You can also suck gently on her lower lip, girls usually love that. If your hands are near her back, you can massage her gently. Hold her close to you, but not too tight or you won't be able to breathe. If you want to French, just part your lips open slightly and run gently the tip of your tongue against the inside of her lips; hopefully, she'll get the message and open up her mouth. Just open your mouth a little more and gently push your tongue inside her mouth. Once again, she might be the one who will take initiative and try to French you first. If that's the case, just relax, open your mouth (not too wide, just enough to let her in) and follow her lead. Once you're inside her mouth or she's inside yours, just play gently with her tongue. Do whatever feels comfortable and natural, and don't try something which feels ackward. Don't make rash moves and don't try to lick her tonsils or shove your tongue down her throat, that's not the idea. You can run your tongue along hers, tease her just a little with the tip of your tongue, gently caress the inside of her mouth, etc. Just do what feels good - it's easy, even if practice always makes it more simple. Oh, and one last piece of advice about technique - watch out your teeth, it's really not comfortable when they hit your partner's own teeth. Once you're over, if it was your first time, tell your GF about it. She won't laugh at you - actually, she might be excited by the fact she was your first time. Also ask her if there are things she likes and what she don't likes - the key to being a good lover is to know what gives your partner pleasure. Once you get more familiar with the basic stuff, don't be afraid to experiment - there are plenty of nice and very pleasant things you could discover by being bold a little.» Well, I hope it helped some people out there! Take care, Dreamlord Back to main page |